Find Me Now Love - Blind Date

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Blind Date
You may not agree , but it seems to me that blind dates are tall on the list of things that everyone loves to hate . I have just one question – why?
Apparently, there are a numeral of myths about blind dates that are ruining their reputation. If you’re interested in exploding those myths and learning how to make blind dates productive and even enjoyable, this article is for you.
Myth #1: Blind dates are foolish because you can just as well meet someone spontaneously.
Fact: Let’s face it. If you’re working full time, how many opportunities do you've to suddenly meet a potential dating partner? The majority of married couples will tell you: They didn't meet at a club or in college. Someone introduced them. The sooner you accept that a blind date can be the most valuable tool in searching for your soul mate, the sooner your entire outlook on blind dates will take a positive turn – and so will your ability to utilize them.
Myth #2:If you don’t click right away , then you aren’t right for each other. Fact: Although many of us expect to click instantly with the person who is right for us, in reality that doesn’t happen too often . Instant connections are scarce , and for most people they take several meetings to develop. So if you find that you have a many things in common, or some aspects of your date’s personality appeals to you – that’s sufficient to go out on a second date
Myth #3: Your initial impression on a blind date is generally correct . Go with it.
Fact: The area where first impressions count least might just be blind dates. Anyone can be nervous on a first date, or have had an awful day at work. Be honest: Do you show who you actually are interior on that initial , blind date? Well, neither does your date. Instead, see at it as an icebreaker. Don’t make any decisions if they’re based on mere impressions. Just relax and enjoy the evening as much as possible. Don’t let initial impressions get in the way.
Myth #4: If you don’t feel physically attracted very early on, you never will.
Fact: Even though physical attraction is an obvious requisite for marriage, it does not necessarily come instantly. If a man prefers women who are tall, dark and exotic looking, then when he goes out with a petite, blonde, blue-eyed man it will take her another date or two to appreciate her looks no matter how beautiful she is. The thing is that, when you start to like a person for who they are, you discover yourself appreciating their physical appearance, too. Now that we’ve dealt with the myths, we can get down to some practical advice: How to survive and enjoy (!) a blind date – and how to set the stage for date numeral two.
1)  Keep the conversation light. You don't want to reveal your deepest secrets to someone you hardly know and aren't sure if you'll ever see again.
2) Be a good listener. Remember, you want to get to know the person you’re with.
3) If it’s hard for you to make tiny talk , practice beforehand. Not everyone has the gift of gab.
4)Don’t spend more than a many minutes talking about your job.
5) Don’t stretch the date out for too long. There is a limit to how much conversation two people can sustain when they go out for the initial time. The ideal first date should final in-between two and two and a half hours, and should give both of you the opportunity to opposite in a pleasant and relatively quiet atmosphere.
Now that you’ve exploded the myths and gotten some great advice, you can put it to work. Next time you have a blind date, keep all this in mind and see the difference!
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Find Me Now Love - Swinging

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Swinging
To me, the definition of swinging is pure fun and excitement, but let’s dispense with the nitty gritty.
Swingers don’t wear signs or get tattooed to exhibit their off-hours activities. In fact, you may not recognize someone who swings at all. Some couples have reported going to swingers clubs, only to run into their next door neighbors!
What we see like
Swingers come in all shapes and sizes and genders. We can be heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual. There really aren’t any restrictions. The only limitations are those of your creativity.
If you want some better statistics, then let’s talk about the majority of swingers. Most of us are anywhere from our late twenties to our early fifties. Many of us are already married and looking to take our sexual experience to the next level.
Most swingers are well-groomed, well-dressed, and just your everyday man or woman .
Why we’re swinging
You might amazement why a decent, attractive couple or single is looking to try swinging. There doesn’t seem to be a clear reason if they already have a partner to share sexual relations with. Do you really want to know?
Most of the swinging couples aren’t having troubles or are looking to alter their relationship; they’re actually looking to increase their intimacy. Living out fantasies of being with another person in a safe and open environment can bring greater communication and appreciation of your partner.
Experienced swingers report that even after twenty years (!) of swinging, they are better able to talk with their partner and sort out unrelated problems than they'd have been without the swinging experience.
How we’re swinging
But what you actually want to know is what exactly happens when you’re swinging. Come on, you’ve thought about it.
For the beginner swinger, you’ll find that you can go to a club or out with another couple and just look the ‘festivities’ lacking having to participate.
If that’s not enough , then you can progress to interacting with another couple or single in a safe environment (think a club or a mutually chosen location). This doesn’t cruel that you've to have sex, but it can involve touching and exploring another person while your partner is in the same room. And moving onto some harder swinging, this is where there are still rules, but the playbook changes, becoming much bigger.
You can go ahead and have intercourse with another person, either with or lacking the presence of your partner. And I might go into more details, but I’ll leave your imagination to fill in the blanks.
Swinging is experiencing sex and intimacy with another couple or person because your current relationship is strong.  You need to try one thing unused and are curious about interacting with another person, gender, or sexual arena. And at the end of the evening , you still go residence with your partner—more open and more committed to each other.
Swinging opens up all kinds of things for a couple.
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Find Me Now Love - First Date

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First Date
Ah, the anticipation! However it may have developed, you are about to test the waters on a initial date. It may have been a while since you’ve done so. You might be a bit nervous. Whether this is a blind date, a meeting arranged by friends, a personal ad rendezvous, or even a date with someone you've spoken to in person, there are some important factors to keep in mind. Watching your manners, choosing the right dress , handling the tab, conversation skills, even how to get a second date are things to consider.
Before we get there, though, and become preoccupied with our date, there is one crucial element to recollect . Often in the preparation and anticipation, we can forget about #1. That’s right, you – and your personal safety. I’m not suggesting we become obsessive about precautions, merely alert, aware, and prepared. For a first meeting, it is prudent to let a ally or family member know where you're meeting, how long you expect to be, and the name of your date. Touch base with your friend after the date as a courtesy.
If you are to be having a blind date or are meeting an internet date for the first time, it is best to keep personal information, such as the address of your residence, to yourself. For internet dates and dating service dates, be alert for any anomalies between the description the person gave and what you actually see and hear. Though not the norm, be leery of ‘false advertising.’ Use your own mode of transportation to arrive. Pick a public location for this first meeting. Always haul some emergency cash in case you need a cab or need to pay your own way.
In today’s universe , we are blessed with a few technological devices that simplify meetings and safety precautions. One of the best self-protection devices, for dating or traveling, is the cellular phone. Cell phones are easy to carry . Many have a one-touch calling feature. By pressing and holding down one button, you can call a friend , even an emergency assistance number . Always be sure to charge the batteries on your cell phone before leaving for your rendezvous or date. Whether your car breaks down, you're running late, or you need to get out of a sticky situation, a cell phone can be worth its weight in gold. Use your instincts. If you feel uncomfortable on a date, phone a ally from the restroom. Have him or her call you back; it is reasonable to feign a reason for an emergency exit if you're ill at ease.
Very uncomfortable? Tell an employee at the restaurant or establishment. There is no need to be embarrassed. Be honest. In our fast-paced society, it is expected that each ‘meet-and-greet’ might not always go as planned. Be gracious, of course, but take intelligent precautions. Phone and ask a friend to meet you exterior if need be.
That said, you're well-prepared to venture forth. Look forward to your date. Have reasonable expectations. Remember all the wonderful things you are and have to offer and go enjoy.
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Find Me Now Love - Sex, Women and Men

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Sex, Women and Men
During my many years of counseling couples, I have frequently worked with the sexual problems that frequently occur in committed relationships. The most common complaint from men regarding sex is frequency, and the most common complaint from woman is lack of emotional intimacy.
There is a very good reason why these are the most common complaints – men and women are very different when it comes to sex!
The biological sexual drive, or lack of it, relates to how much testosterone is present. Men biologically have much more testosterone than women. Men’s biology equips them to be alert for sex most of the time, which is nature’s way of ensuring the survival of the species. Women, on the other hand, often do not experience a biological sexual drive unless they are in the center of their menstrual cycle. This fact can create a large problem in relationships.
I’ve often heard men complain that:
“I think if my wife really cared about me and my needs, she would have sex with me even when she wasn’t turned on.”
“I don’t reach out for sex much anymore because I’m tired of being rejected, but my wife says she wants to be pursued in a romantic way. This feels like a no-win to me.”
“My wife is in control of our sex life . If she wants it, then we have it. If she doesn’t, then I have no say about it.”
I’ve often heard women complain that:
“My husband often comes to me like a needy small teenager , needing me to appease him or validate him with sex. There is nothing erotic about an insecure, needy little teenager !”
“I often feel pulled on for sex, as if having sex is more necessary than caring about me. When I do what he wants, I feel used, and when I don’t, I run into hers anger, resentment, blame or withdrawal. It feels like a no-win.”
“He always seems to be alert for sex, but I don’t feel turned on unless we're feeling close . I can’t just watch TV all evening and then feel like making love.”
The very real issue here, at minimum for most men beneath 40, is that they're biologically motivated and women are mostly emotionally motivated. Heterosexual women get turned on when their man is warm, open, caring, and personally powerful. Most women are not turned on by a man who is closed, distant, angry, blaming, or needy.
The problems of frequency can get resolved as men and women learn to understand and accept each other’s differences. Men need to understand and accept that women are not as biologically motivated as men are. Many women rarely even think about sex, while most men will tell you that they think about sex frequently throughout the day. When men understand that women are turned on by love, romance, emotional intimacy, warmth, caring, and personal power, then men may be motivated to learn to be the fond , powerful and romantic partners that women want and need.
When women can accept that men’s biology is very present for them, they can stop putting men down for it and start supporting their men in creating more emotional intimacy, romance, and personal power. When women criticize men instead of understanding and accepting them, they help to create some of the insecurity that is such a turn off to many women. When a man can appreciate rather than demean him woman for hers sexuality, she can discover ways of meeting his needs lacking feeling used.
Understanding and accepting each other’s differences and needs can lead both men and women toward more satisfying sex lives.
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