Find Me Now Love - Sexually Addicted?

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Sexually Addicted? Important Questions to Ask
There are many things in our culture that grab us and won't let go. Sometimes sex is one of them. Perhaps that's the case for you or your spouse/partner. Sexual addiction plays a prominent role in the "I Can't Say No" kind of extramarital affair . These questions are intended to assist you be more aware of some behaviors that maybe indicate that sex has a hold on you. If you answer yes to three or more questions it probably is wise to take a closer look at the place of sex in your life .
1) Do I have sex at inappropriate times, inappropriate places and/or with the wrong people ?
2) Do I make promises to myself or rules for myself concerning my sexual behavior that I find I cannot follow?
3) Have I misplaced count of the numeral of sexual partners I've had in the past 3 years?
4) Do I have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g. the threat of being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, etc.)?
5) Do I feel uncomfortable about my masturbation, the fantasies I engage in, the props I use, and/or the places in which I do it?
6) Do I feel jaded, exhausted, cynical? Am I on the path to that?
7) Do I feel that my existence is unmanageable because of my sexual behavior?
8) Do I've sex as a way to deal with or escape from life's problems? DoI feel entitled to sex? Do I feel as though I've earned sex?
9) Do I have a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of outside sexual activity on my own part ?
10) Do I feel that my own sexual existence affects my own spiritual existence in a negative way?
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Find Me Now Love - Marriage & Swinging

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Marriage & Swinging
While some find the swinging lifestyle very attractive, others believe that it is disgusting and not one thing that should be done within a marriage. Everyone has his or him own beliefs about this, and generally speaking there isn't all that much middle ground. Is swinging right for your marriage?
What are the reasons that you think it might be right? There are many questions one must ask ones self before jumping head initial into the swinging lifestyle, even once , if they need their marriage to survive. Many couples consider implicating others in their sex existence because they're bored with one another in the bedroom. This is usually an idea that is toyed with over time, until the couple realizes the fantasy .
The problem is, any married couple needs to discuss what they hope the outcome of the swinging experience will do for their sexual relationship. If they believe that one time with another person or other people will be the end of the need for swinging they might need to reexamine their agenda to be sure. Simply put, a couple needs to discuss how often they'll engage in this type of behavior and how they'll communicate about what it is or is not doing for their sexual relationship.
Other couples involve others in their sexual lives because they're both open sexually and would like to experience unused things, with unused people together. This is the type of married couple that generally does the best with the swinging lifestyle. They aren't (at least knowingly) looking to fix something between them, they're just curious, and eager to try new things together.
Because this couple isn't seeking anything outside of the relationship that they couldn't already create on their own this couple usually can communicate quite freely about how frequently they'd like to implicate others in their sexual existence and to what extent. Because the swinging partners aren't fulfilling a need that the partner cannot, the sexual relations with others are usually mutually gratifying. For others, one spouse might pressure the other into trying out the swinging lifestyle.
This almost always leads to regrets, because even if both of the married couple enjoy the encounters in the moment, it invariably leads to resentment. The problem is that both people need to consent that they need to bring other folks into their sex lives, because once it is done it can't be undone. Swinging isn't one thing that ought to be attempted unless both spouses are sure that they're comfortable going forward.
Pressuring of ones spouse to interact in this manner can lead to tension, hostility, and even emotional distance resulting in divorce. This is not to say that many married couples don't engage in swinging and enjoy the experience very much. Many couples make their swinging lifestyle work for them quite well, usually because they have been open about their expectations and their fulfillment both physically and emotionally by such a lifestyle.
Other couples engage in swinging for a time and agree together that it isn't for them, and they go on to have a very happy, very monogamous relationship. Swinging is something that can be enjoyed or not, but if married couples communicate and make these decisions together all will usually be well.
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