At birth, did you get a manual as
to 'how' to use that brain of yours? How to be happy, how to find and
keep friends and how to find that 'special' person, suitable for
you? Have you ever learned how to date? Why is it that some people are
so good at dating and others aren't? What are they doing different? Is
it just because they are lucky? Or did they learn how to do it well?
And, if so, is it possible for you to learn how to have more success
when it comes to dating? How often do you examine what you do? How
frequently do you sit down and think about what processes you use when
it comes to the subject of meeting and getting to know another person?
Most of us are too active to function in this world instead of
taking the time to discover out how we function and how we could
function more effectively!
1. Ask powerful questions
Asking powerful questions is important in finding out about the other
person. For example , you can use words such as what, where and how.
These kind of words cannot lead to a simple yes or no response .
Instead they donate the other person the opportunity to donate a
more comprehensive response . Apart from that you might need to ask
more specific questions at certain times. For example , if she says
'I'll call you soon' you might need to request one thing like
'When should I expect a call'. Asking for more specific information
will avoid misunderstandings!
2. Reality checks
Before you judge the other person, be aware that your beliefs and values
are based on your reality, which doesn't cruel your beliefs and
values are right or wrong. We are all different and your date's beliefs
and values might not match yours. Knowing and understanding this will
make you more flexible and understanding of others, including your dates.
3. Avoid assumptions
Unfortunately, assuming is something we do a lot. So, instead of
thinking 'She/he is probably doing this to blah, blah, blah...',
request ! It's better to find out than to do guess work. And, if the
other person doesn't seem to respond to you straight elsewhere , it
doesn't cruel that he or she isn't interested . Perhaps they just
need to get to know you better before they demonstrate any kind of interest.
4. Build rapport
Rapport is the presence of trust , harmony and co-operation in a
relationship. If you've rapport with a person you will make them feel like your ally, your partner.
You can create rapport by creating commonalitites! You can do this by
matching their language, breathing, gestures, facial expression and
voice.
5. Be confident
Confidence can open many doors for you. When you are confident people
will have more trust in you and your abilities. Even, if you don't
consider yourself to be a confident person....Act As If You Are!
Is there any such thing as a soul mate? Yes, there are soul mates for everyone in the universe . You will
discover that you may find your soul mate in the minimum likely
place or in the minimum likely person, but you'll discover someone
who can love you and care for you when you need them. A soul mate is a
person who you love and loves you back for no reason at all. A soul mate
is deeper than lust.
You don't lust for the person, though you might every at this time
and then, but you are just as happy sitting with them looking TV as
you're in the bedroom. You will find that your soul mate is like no other boyfriend . When you find a soul mate, you'll feel one thing
that you have never felt before.
Is there more than one soul mate out there? When it comes to answering
your feelings, you'll find that most folks are 50/50 on this one.
You might find that you love more than one man deeply in your life
. There are more than a billion people in the universe and your
chances of having more than one soul mate is possible, however, most
people believe in the one and only.
The one and only soul mate that you will ever have, but you will
discover that there are going to be many men in your existence that
make you feel so much.
A soul mate is deeper than lust; it's deeper than
love. When you discover a soul mate, you just know that they are
going to be different.
1) To find your soul mate you've to be open to the world . There are
messages and signs all around us; you just have to know how to read
them. There are signs all around you that will lead you to your soul
mate. When you begin to discover the signs, you will find your soul mate. The universe is constantly moving you towards your own
utopia. It is trying to move you towards your soul mate, your destiny,
and your happiness.
2) You will know when you meet your soul mate; you'll feel something
that you've never felt. It's like having love at first sight, but it
feels deeper. You feel so much, in your heart, for a person before you
even get to know a person. You will just know when you have met your
soul mate.
Everything that you need to know lies in their eyes. If you can look
into their eyes and see yourself, you have just met the man that will
forever affect your life .
A soul mate may not last forever, however, it will final long
enough for you to get what you need out of them. They might be there
to comfort you and to care for you when others desert you.
They might
be there to encourage you to reach for your dreams. They promise to
give you the world and then the follow through with their words. They
are they for you when you truly need them.
A soul mate simply means that you never have to say I love you, because
they, as well as you, already know. It's never having to say you're
sorry, because you know they are. It is knowing what they feel lacking
having to say a word.
1) To attract your soul mate you've to open your heart to the world .
You have to take the time to sit in a park and watch the world pass
you by. When you do this, you're able to feel all that the world
feels.
2) Notice the signs. When you walk to work, see up to the buildings,
see at everything around you. Don't walk with your head looking
straight ahead, you are blocking out the universe. Take in the world
by acknowledging the universe .
3) Be open to everything, you may meet your soul mate online or on a
subway or on a blind date. You never know where you might meet them,
so be open to each experience.
Be kind to others. Today, it is sometimes not safe to extend and
open hand to others, but you can smile to everyone who passes you by on
the street. You might need to pull out a dollar for the local
charity or homeless person that you meet. You can be kind to the
universe, by being kind to those who pass you by.
4) Do one thing for someone who you don't even know. This will not
only make you feel good, but it will too make someone else become open
to the universe . Open the phone book and pick a random title .
Send them a dollar in the mail. It will make you and the other person
happy and appreciative to the universe .
5) Be patient. You don't want to rush fate, or you'll get cheated. You
don't need to rush into a relationship to be in a relationship, you
need to wait and discover someone who is your soul mate. It may
happen at 15, 25, or maybe even 45. No one knows when you'll meet your
one, however, if you open yourself up to the universe , then you will
be able to find the love of your existence much quicker.
6) Listen to your heart. You might find yourself in a relationship,
but you aren't truly feeling them. You will want to follow your heart.
Your heart is an internal guide that will permit you to find the
path to your soul mate.
7) Give everyone a chance. You may know someone and not even realize
that they're your soul mate. The most unusual places; the ones that
you'd never think about will actually be your soul mate. Go against your
normal status of acceptable dates and take a chance. It may turn into
something much more than just conversation; they might be your soul mate.
When writing your personal ad,
remember that you are selling yourself. Emphasize on the positive, but a
negative well blended into the ad might work as well, even make your ad
stand out ("I might not have the body of a supermodel but..").
But first your photo: hugely important . Why? Because it is the
first thing other folks will see at before deciding to read
farther. Also, the number responses increase dramatically when you
post a photo.
The photo should be fairly recent and of yourself (not your cute cousin's). It ought to be cast you in positive light, but not
overdone. And please don't post a suggestive photo on a serious dating
or matchmaking location (it won't be published anyway).
Also of importance is your screen title . Prospects will look at this
before deciding to whether to peruse any farther. Make this brief ,
catchy and descriptive. Avoid over-used terms such as "lovelyandsensual42".
While creating a screen name , it might help to zero-in on who you
are and what you like to do (For example , "younggreeneyez31" tells
something about looks and age).
Next you will begin to write your personal ad. Start with a good
headline: yet another hurdle to get over. Your headline should be
short , descriptive, and easy to recollect . Study other peoples'
headlines and see which ones attract you.
Writing: A conversation-style writing works best for a dating profile.
Use imagination. See your ideal woman/man as though seating right there
in front of you. Tell her/him why she/he would need to be with you.
Say what you like to do and what makes you exciting. Get excited. Write
lacking worrying about spelling, grammar or length. At this point
you're trying to get your emotions on paper (or typing document), and
stopping to make corrections only interrupts the flow.
Describe yourself. Say what makes you special.
What you bring into a relationship. Your interests, hobbies, what makes you good company, what
you bring into the relationship. Pour your heart out. And use action
words. Give them something to make them recollect your ad.
There are things you should avoid. Among them trite , canned
expressions and overused click's. I can't bear to read another
"looking for my own knight in shinning armor" type of personal ad.
Neither can you, I presume.
Study other peoples' personal profiles.
If an ad catches your eye
attempt to find out what makes it interesting . Model yours on these,
but please don't imitate directly. Take your time and do it right.
Be honest. Be sincere. Don't exaggerate and don't fake. Above all, don't
lie.
When you are done writing, take a break. Let your draft personal profile
seat for a while (even a day or two). Then come back with a fresh mind
and begin editing.
Make corrections on spelling and grammar. Cut
clutter. All you'll have to do now is transfer your magnetic personal
profile on to your dating site of choice.
Choosing the right dating site
can be daunting. For one, there are thousands of dating and matchmaking
sites on the web. Two, each including popular dating sites, is tailored
to meet specific needs or objectives. Three, what's good for one person
is not necessarily good (or right) for another.
So, how do you find the best dating site for you? Here are some
pointers to help narrow the field and make it easier for you to make
the right choice.
A. Do some good old research: Do a search on your favorite search
engine using keywords such as "dating websites", "online dating websites",
"dating service websites", "online dating services" etc. Not the best way if you are short of time as you
might have to weed through hundreds of sites one by one. Reading
objective reviews about various dating sites will help farther narrow
the field.
B. Establish a budget. Decide how much you are willing to spend, but be
realistic. Free or cheap websites might not provide you with quality
service or features. Some websites charge a recurring fee, others a
one-time fee, while still others charge by services used.
C. Ask a ally who's done it: This option may not be the best simply
because a friend will likely recommend what's right for her/him, which
might not be necessarily so for you. But a friend might tell about
good or bad experiences with certain website(s).
Caution: if the friend had a nefarious personal online dating
experience or for any reason never succeeded she/he might take the
chance to vent, and tell you just how it won't work. Personal
experiences are exactly that, personal.
D. Know what you are looking for. Are you seeking a serious or casual relationship? If seeking a serious relationship, go to a location that
caters to that. If seeking encounters or casual relationships, you'll
be wasting time if you sign up with serious relationship sites.
E. Sign up for release trials: Almost all the popular dating sites
offer a free trial period. A free trial allows you to test-drive the
site without committing. Never sign up with a site that has no
free trial. Free trials differ from site to site . Some sites offer
full-featured release trials for a limited time, others offer limited
features for a longer or indefinite period and others something
in-between.
F. Which is best, specialty (aka niche) or popular dating site ? One
more reason you should know what you need . Is religion important
to you? Or is ethnicity? What about age? Do you have kids or do you
want someone with kids? What about your hobbies/passions? There are
specialty and community-based dating sites to cater for nearly each
need, interest, value or passion (examples: single parents, Asian,
catholic, bicycle lovers, military etc).
G. How long has the site been existent? Obviously, a new site will
not have that many sufficient members, or most members will be on
trial. Conversely, an older site will have established a large database. Also, that a location has been around for a couple of years
or more means it probably is doing one thing right.
H. Sign up with more than one site . The very first location you
sign up with may not be best suited for you. Therefore it is
important to sign up with three or more to get a feel (see No.10
underneath on how to do this without initial having to pay).
I. Know yourself. What things
are meaningful to you? What are your passions or hobbies? Know these
could help in deciding the type of site best suited for your
particular needs.
J. Features: Look for sites which offer onsite instant messaging,
anonymous email, photo profiles, chat/video chat and other handy
features. How do you tell what features are offered without initial
becoming a paid member?
