At birth, did you get a manual as
to 'how' to use that brain of yours? How to be happy, how to find and
keep friends and how to find that 'special' person, suitable for
you? Have you ever learned how to date? Why is it that some people are
so good at dating and others aren't? What are they doing different? Is
it just because they are lucky? Or did they learn how to do it well?
And, if so, is it possible for you to learn how to have more success when it comes to dating? How often do you examine what you do? How frequently do you sit down and think about what processes you use when it comes to the subject of meeting and getting to know another person? Most of us are too active to function in this world instead of taking the time to discover out how we function and how we could function more effectively!
1. Ask powerful questions
Asking powerful questions is important in finding out about the other person. For example , you can use words such as what, where and how. These kind of words cannot lead to a simple yes or no response . Instead they donate the other person the opportunity to donate a more comprehensive response . Apart from that you might need to ask more specific questions at certain times. For example , if she says 'I'll call you soon' you might need to request one thing like 'When should I expect a call'. Asking for more specific information will avoid misunderstandings!
2. Reality checks
Before you judge the other person, be aware that your beliefs and values are based on your reality, which doesn't cruel your beliefs and values are right or wrong. We are all different and your date's beliefs and values might not match yours. Knowing and understanding this will make you more flexible and understanding of others, including your dates.
3. Avoid assumptions
Unfortunately, assuming is something we do a lot. So, instead of thinking 'She/he is probably doing this to blah, blah, blah...', request ! It's better to find out than to do guess work. And, if the other person doesn't seem to respond to you straight elsewhere , it doesn't cruel that he or she isn't interested . Perhaps they just need to get to know you better before they demonstrate any kind of interest.
4. Build rapport
Rapport is the presence of trust , harmony and co-operation in a relationship. If you've rapport with a person you will make them feel like your ally, your partner. You can create rapport by creating commonalitites! You can do this by matching their language, breathing, gestures, facial expression and voice.
5. Be confident
Confidence can open many doors for you. When you are confident people will have more trust in you and your abilities. Even, if you don't consider yourself to be a confident person....Act As If You Are!
And, if so, is it possible for you to learn how to have more success when it comes to dating? How often do you examine what you do? How frequently do you sit down and think about what processes you use when it comes to the subject of meeting and getting to know another person? Most of us are too active to function in this world instead of taking the time to discover out how we function and how we could function more effectively!
1. Ask powerful questions
Asking powerful questions is important in finding out about the other person. For example , you can use words such as what, where and how. These kind of words cannot lead to a simple yes or no response . Instead they donate the other person the opportunity to donate a more comprehensive response . Apart from that you might need to ask more specific questions at certain times. For example , if she says 'I'll call you soon' you might need to request one thing like 'When should I expect a call'. Asking for more specific information will avoid misunderstandings!
2. Reality checks
Before you judge the other person, be aware that your beliefs and values are based on your reality, which doesn't cruel your beliefs and values are right or wrong. We are all different and your date's beliefs and values might not match yours. Knowing and understanding this will make you more flexible and understanding of others, including your dates.
3. Avoid assumptions
Unfortunately, assuming is something we do a lot. So, instead of thinking 'She/he is probably doing this to blah, blah, blah...', request ! It's better to find out than to do guess work. And, if the other person doesn't seem to respond to you straight elsewhere , it doesn't cruel that he or she isn't interested . Perhaps they just need to get to know you better before they demonstrate any kind of interest.
4. Build rapport
Rapport is the presence of trust , harmony and co-operation in a relationship. If you've rapport with a person you will make them feel like your ally, your partner. You can create rapport by creating commonalitites! You can do this by matching their language, breathing, gestures, facial expression and voice.
5. Be confident
Confidence can open many doors for you. When you are confident people will have more trust in you and your abilities. Even, if you don't consider yourself to be a confident person....Act As If You Are!
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