When writing your personal ad,
remember that you are selling yourself. Emphasize on the positive, but a
negative well blended into the ad might work as well, even make your ad
stand out ("I might not have the body of a supermodel but..").
But first your photo: hugely important . Why? Because it is the
first thing other folks will see at before deciding to read
farther. Also, the number responses increase dramatically when you
post a photo.
The photo should be fairly recent and of yourself (not your cute cousin's). It ought to be cast you in positive light, but not
overdone. And please don't post a suggestive photo on a serious dating
or matchmaking location (it won't be published anyway).
Also of importance is your screen title . Prospects will look at this
before deciding to whether to peruse any farther. Make this brief ,
catchy and descriptive. Avoid over-used terms such as "lovelyandsensual42".
While creating a screen name , it might help to zero-in on who you
are and what you like to do (For example , "younggreeneyez31" tells
something about looks and age).
Next you will begin to write your personal ad. Start with a good
headline: yet another hurdle to get over. Your headline should be
short , descriptive, and easy to recollect . Study other peoples'
headlines and see which ones attract you.
Writing: A conversation-style writing works best for a dating profile.
Use imagination. See your ideal woman/man as though seating right there
in front of you. Tell her/him why she/he would need to be with you.
Say what you like to do and what makes you exciting. Get excited. Write
lacking worrying about spelling, grammar or length. At this point
you're trying to get your emotions on paper (or typing document), and
stopping to make corrections only interrupts the flow.
Describe yourself. Say what makes you special.
What you bring into a relationship. Your interests, hobbies, what makes you good company, what
you bring into the relationship. Pour your heart out. And use action
words. Give them something to make them recollect your ad.
There are things you should avoid. Among them trite , canned
expressions and overused click's. I can't bear to read another
"looking for my own knight in shinning armor" type of personal ad.
Neither can you, I presume.
Study other peoples' personal profiles.
If an ad catches your eye
attempt to find out what makes it interesting . Model yours on these,
but please don't imitate directly. Take your time and do it right.
Be honest. Be sincere. Don't exaggerate and don't fake. Above all, don't
lie.
When you are done writing, take a break. Let your draft personal profile
seat for a while (even a day or two). Then come back with a fresh mind
and begin editing.
Make corrections on spelling and grammar. Cut
clutter. All you'll have to do now is transfer your magnetic personal
profile on to your dating site of choice.
Choosing the right dating site
can be daunting. For one, there are thousands of dating and matchmaking
sites on the web. Two, each including popular dating sites, is tailored
to meet specific needs or objectives. Three, what's good for one person
is not necessarily good (or right) for another.
So, how do you find the best dating site for you? Here are some
pointers to help narrow the field and make it easier for you to make
the right choice.
A. Do some good old research: Do a search on your favorite search
engine using keywords such as "dating websites", "online dating websites",
"dating service websites", "online dating services" etc. Not the best way if you are short of time as you
might have to weed through hundreds of sites one by one. Reading
objective reviews about various dating sites will help farther narrow
the field.
B. Establish a budget. Decide how much you are willing to spend, but be
realistic. Free or cheap websites might not provide you with quality
service or features. Some websites charge a recurring fee, others a
one-time fee, while still others charge by services used.
C. Ask a ally who's done it: This option may not be the best simply
because a friend will likely recommend what's right for her/him, which
might not be necessarily so for you. But a friend might tell about
good or bad experiences with certain website(s).
Caution: if the friend had a nefarious personal online dating
experience or for any reason never succeeded she/he might take the
chance to vent, and tell you just how it won't work. Personal
experiences are exactly that, personal.
D. Know what you are looking for. Are you seeking a serious or casual relationship? If seeking a serious relationship, go to a location that
caters to that. If seeking encounters or casual relationships, you'll
be wasting time if you sign up with serious relationship sites.
E. Sign up for release trials: Almost all the popular dating sites
offer a free trial period. A free trial allows you to test-drive the
site without committing. Never sign up with a site that has no
free trial. Free trials differ from site to site . Some sites offer
full-featured release trials for a limited time, others offer limited
features for a longer or indefinite period and others something
in-between.
F. Which is best, specialty (aka niche) or popular dating site ? One
more reason you should know what you need . Is religion important
to you? Or is ethnicity? What about age? Do you have kids or do you
want someone with kids? What about your hobbies/passions? There are
specialty and community-based dating sites to cater for nearly each
need, interest, value or passion (examples: single parents, Asian,
catholic, bicycle lovers, military etc).
G. How long has the site been existent? Obviously, a new site will
not have that many sufficient members, or most members will be on
trial. Conversely, an older site will have established a large database. Also, that a location has been around for a couple of years
or more means it probably is doing one thing right.
H. Sign up with more than one site . The very first location you
sign up with may not be best suited for you. Therefore it is
important to sign up with three or more to get a feel (see No.10
underneath on how to do this without initial having to pay).
I. Know yourself. What things
are meaningful to you? What are your passions or hobbies? Know these
could help in deciding the type of site best suited for your
particular needs.
J. Features: Look for sites which offer onsite instant messaging,
anonymous email, photo profiles, chat/video chat and other handy
features. How do you tell what features are offered without initial
becoming a paid member?
Searching for your soul mate is can
be a daunting task. It is difficult to discover that one person who
truly cares for you and is willing to spend the rest of their existence
with you, no matter how good or nefarious things are. Unfortunately,
many people discover themselves disappointed with the results they
get from dating. Perhaps they set expectations which are too high , or
they are unrealistic.
The high divorce statistics in the United States
exhibit that many folks are unsuccessful with their dates, even
when they select to pursue marriage.
To find your soul mate, there are a numeral of things you'll want
to do. Doing these things can lead to a lifetime of happiness, while
failing to do them can lead to a lot of emotional, and in some cases
physical pain. You should first ask yourself how long you've known
the person you're dating. If you've only known them a many months,
there is no way you can know for sure if they're your soul mate.
If you
are looking for your soul mate, you ought to date them for at minimum
a year to determine if the two of you are truly compatible. To find
your soul mate, you must use logic rather than emotion. This is where so
many people fail.
I know this is easier to say than do. But when you act on your emotion,
you may be blind to some obvious problems that your partner might
have.
Remember, divorce is an expensive and painful process. When you
pick your soul mate, you need to make sure there is no chance of you
breaking up with your partner, unless you ought to pass away . It is
too important to know the history of the person you're dating. A
large part of this history is personal finances. While this might
sound shallow, let me elaborate. Statistics show that a huge
percentage of marriages end because of fighting about money.
You don't want to wait until you're married for your husband or
husband to tell you about some credit cards they haven't paid off, or
that $20,000 pupil loan they've been working on. These things need to
be discussed up front. During the discussion, if you think you're
partner is being dishonest, this probably mean they are. To discover your soul mate, you must use logic over emotion. Using emotion will
almost always lead to disaster.
Maybe yes, maybe no, this depends
on the relationship you have with your friend . Will asking your
friend out make them uncomfortable? Or, is it that you both feel the same way but don't know how to approach each other about this subject.
You say, you don't need to ruin the relationship you've with your
ally , if you ask them out for a date and they say no.
You couldn't
deal with the rejection and embarrassment that you might feel later
on. Simona has known Jack for three years and they are near friends. Jack know how she feels. Ironically, Simona has needed to date Jack since they met while attending college classes three years ago.
He has been wanting Jack to request her out on a formal date, but
he hasn't. She even thought about asking him out, but she was
unsure if this would create problems for their friendship.
Neither one
of them know what they ought to do, so they haven't done anything
about how they feel.
Could it be that your friend is feeling the same way you do, but too
has a fear of rejection as well! There's accquired to be an easier
way to break the ice, to get us both past this, if we think our relationship can be more than a friendship.
Are there some signs that you both are giving off that might make you
think you are attracted to each other in a romantic way outside of
your friendship?
Well, here are some signs that you might need to
look for, when you consider approaching your friend about going on a
date and developing your romantic relationship:
1) Both of you find yourselves staring at each other for long periods
of time but don't say how you feel about each other romantically.
2) You both spend nearly everyday with each other and you feel like
that no day is complete lacking spending time together.
3) You and your ally think about each other all the time. You both
discover that you say each others names all the time. You even
sometimes complete each others sentences.
4) Both of you feel butterflies inside when you see each other and are
very anxious and happy to be together.
5) You both enjoy spending lots of time together and never seem to get
enough of each other.
Well, if you and your ally have any of these signs then it sounds like
you're more than just good friends! You must be in love! It's probably a
good idea at this point to go for it! Ask your ally out on a date. Chances are, your ally might have wanted to do the same thing.
You'll be happy you did. Both of you will probably wonder why you
didn't do this sooner. Looks like Simona and Jack will be asking each
other out on a date soon !
