Searching for your soul mate is can
be a daunting task. It is difficult to discover that one person who
truly cares for you and is willing to spend the rest of their existence
with you, no matter how good or nefarious things are. Unfortunately,
many people discover themselves disappointed with the results they
get from dating. Perhaps they set expectations which are too high , or
they are unrealistic.
The high divorce statistics in the United States
exhibit that many folks are unsuccessful with their dates, even
when they select to pursue marriage.
To find your soul mate, there are a numeral of things you'll want
to do. Doing these things can lead to a lifetime of happiness, while
failing to do them can lead to a lot of emotional, and in some cases
physical pain. You should first ask yourself how long you've known
the person you're dating. If you've only known them a many months,
there is no way you can know for sure if they're your soul mate.
If you
are looking for your soul mate, you ought to date them for at minimum
a year to determine if the two of you are truly compatible. To find
your soul mate, you must use logic rather than emotion. This is where so
many people fail.
I know this is easier to say than do. But when you act on your emotion,
you may be blind to some obvious problems that your partner might
have.
Remember, divorce is an expensive and painful process. When you
pick your soul mate, you need to make sure there is no chance of you
breaking up with your partner, unless you ought to pass away . It is
too important to know the history of the person you're dating. A
large part of this history is personal finances. While this might
sound shallow, let me elaborate. Statistics show that a huge
percentage of marriages end because of fighting about money.
You don't want to wait until you're married for your husband or
husband to tell you about some credit cards they haven't paid off, or
that $20,000 pupil loan they've been working on. These things need to
be discussed up front. During the discussion, if you think you're
partner is being dishonest, this probably mean they are. To discover your soul mate, you must use logic over emotion. Using emotion will
almost always lead to disaster.
Maybe yes, maybe no, this depends
on the relationship you have with your friend . Will asking your
friend out make them uncomfortable? Or, is it that you both feel the same way but don't know how to approach each other about this subject.
You say, you don't need to ruin the relationship you've with your
ally , if you ask them out for a date and they say no.
You couldn't
deal with the rejection and embarrassment that you might feel later
on. Simona has known Jack for three years and they are near friends. Jack know how she feels. Ironically, Simona has needed to date Jack since they met while attending college classes three years ago.
He has been wanting Jack to request her out on a formal date, but
he hasn't. She even thought about asking him out, but she was
unsure if this would create problems for their friendship.
Neither one
of them know what they ought to do, so they haven't done anything
about how they feel.
Could it be that your friend is feeling the same way you do, but too
has a fear of rejection as well! There's accquired to be an easier
way to break the ice, to get us both past this, if we think our relationship can be more than a friendship.
Are there some signs that you both are giving off that might make you
think you are attracted to each other in a romantic way outside of
your friendship?
Well, here are some signs that you might need to
look for, when you consider approaching your friend about going on a
date and developing your romantic relationship:
1) Both of you find yourselves staring at each other for long periods
of time but don't say how you feel about each other romantically.
2) You both spend nearly everyday with each other and you feel like
that no day is complete lacking spending time together.
3) You and your ally think about each other all the time. You both
discover that you say each others names all the time. You even
sometimes complete each others sentences.
4) Both of you feel butterflies inside when you see each other and are
very anxious and happy to be together.
5) You both enjoy spending lots of time together and never seem to get
enough of each other.
Well, if you and your ally have any of these signs then it sounds like
you're more than just good friends! You must be in love! It's probably a
good idea at this point to go for it! Ask your ally out on a date. Chances are, your ally might have wanted to do the same thing.
You'll be happy you did. Both of you will probably wonder why you
didn't do this sooner. Looks like Simona and Jack will be asking each
other out on a date soon !
The best way to stay secure when
using online dating services is to ensure your anonymity. There many
information websites and services out that make it easy for internet
savvy folks to find you via your email, phone, or address. You can
stay anonymous and guard your privacy with these ten tips to stay
safe when online dating.
1) Stay anonymous in your profile.
When writing your online dating profile, make sure that you stay
completely anonymous. You can give potential dates information about
your personality, but never, ever reveal any information that gives them
any indication as to where you live or how to get in touch with you.
2) Sign up for a release email address.
Visit Hotmail, Yahoo! Mail to sign up for a release email address. By
signing up for a free email address, you ensure that you stay in
control of communicating with potential online dating partners. If you
ever feel uncomfortable, you can close the release account and
conclusion communications. Be sure to make sure that the email address
you chose doesn't reveal anything personal about yourself.
3) Keep your address private.
Never reveal your genuine name , home address, or phone number
until you're completely comfortable in doing so. Make sure that you
communicate via email until you feel comfortable with your potential date.
4) Get a P.O. box and/or unlisted phone number. You might need to sign up for a p.o. box at your local post office
and/or unlist your phone numeral . Your safety is extremely important
and signing up for these gives you added safety.
5) Do not use sexy references.
When selecting your email address or user name , steer clear of any
'sexy' names. You'll get noticed by using one, but generally by the
wrong folks .
6) Tell the truth.
You need to protect yourself, but be honest at the same time. Let
your potential dates get to know your personality, your likes and
dislikes, and your thoughts and feelings. Do not let them know your
private information such as location or anything that would identify
you. You might also be nervous about using a photo, but rest assured
that it's ok to do so as long as you keep your other private
information out of your profile.
7) Trust your gut.
If you feel unsure, threatened, or uncomfortable, DO NOT respond to any
further communication. You know when you feel uncomfortable. If you feel
that way when talking to a person at the beginning, it's not going to
change and you might be putting yourself further in danger.
8) Beware of the red flags.
Watch out for obvious 'red flags' when talking to people that you have
met through online dating. If they're acting suspicious, they probably
are not who they say they are. Use common sense and you'll be safe .
You can view several online dating red flags here.
9) Use your email block note .
If you're uncomfortable with any email or IM messages from a member of
the dating services, use your block note to keep them from
contacting you again in the future.
10) Don't be afraid to report them.
If you come across any potential dates that are lying, threatening, or
mis-using the services, report them to the company.
When you go on a date, it is
important to be able to resolve any conflicts that may occur. Two of
the most common conflicts that occur on dates deal with race and
religion. If you're dating a person that follows a different faith than
you, it is important to realize that they'll have a belief system
that might dramatically differ from your own. Both you and the person
you're dating must have an open mind.
If you do not, this will cause
problems that can not only make the date unpleasant, but it can too
halt the relationship from progressing.
The same conflicts can occur among partners who come from different racial or cultural backgrounds. To resolve any conflict that you might
encounter on a date, it is first necessary to have an open mind.
Pushing your belief system on another person is an immature form of
behavior, and it is something you will want to avoid at all costs.
As you date someone, they might make a comment or a statement that you
don't agree with. How you respond to it is very important . If you
are too harsh or blunt, you might hurt the feelings of the other
person. If your date states that they feel a certain way about an issue,
ask them why they feel this way.
Asking them this is much more mature than saying "I don't consent with
you," or "that doesn't make any sense."
More often than not, an
individual will elaborate on an opinion they have. You can tell them
that you understand why they would feel that way, but you're not sure
you agree . You can then elaborate on the previous sentence to explain
why. The best way to avoid conflicts on dates is to be open with the person you are dating. Don't be so set in your way of existence that
you are unwilling to see at things from the perspective of another
person.
When you behave in this way, you'll limit yourself, and you may
lose out on an opportunity to construct a powerful relationship.
No matter what the differences are in-between you and your date, you
should see past these differences and focus on what the two of you've
in common. This can allow you to build a strong relationship.
