When you go on a date, it is
important to be able to resolve any conflicts that may occur. Two of
the most common conflicts that occur on dates deal with race and
religion. If you're dating a person that follows a different faith than
you, it is important to realize that they'll have a belief system
that might dramatically differ from your own. Both you and the person
you're dating must have an open mind.
If you do not, this will cause
problems that can not only make the date unpleasant, but it can too
halt the relationship from progressing.
The same conflicts can occur among partners who come from different racial or cultural backgrounds. To resolve any conflict that you might
encounter on a date, it is first necessary to have an open mind.
Pushing your belief system on another person is an immature form of
behavior, and it is something you will want to avoid at all costs.
As you date someone, they might make a comment or a statement that you
don't agree with. How you respond to it is very important . If you
are too harsh or blunt, you might hurt the feelings of the other
person. If your date states that they feel a certain way about an issue,
ask them why they feel this way.
Asking them this is much more mature than saying "I don't consent with
you," or "that doesn't make any sense."
More often than not, an
individual will elaborate on an opinion they have. You can tell them
that you understand why they would feel that way, but you're not sure
you agree . You can then elaborate on the previous sentence to explain
why. The best way to avoid conflicts on dates is to be open with the person you are dating. Don't be so set in your way of existence that
you are unwilling to see at things from the perspective of another
person.
When you behave in this way, you'll limit yourself, and you may
lose out on an opportunity to construct a powerful relationship.
No matter what the differences are in-between you and your date, you
should see past these differences and focus on what the two of you've
in common. This can allow you to build a strong relationship.
With over 40 million folks having
ventured into the online dating arena, it would be a gross
understatement to say that Internet dating is big business. I'm sure
you're aware that you must protect your privacy on the Internet - you
know better than to provide personal information and to trust any Tom,
Dick or Harry that comes along.
But did you know that online dating
too has unwritten rules and that adhering to these rules is crucial to
your online dating success?
Lower Your Expectations
Unfortunately, over 95% of those who enter the online dating scene do
not actually find their match. These are the people who throw in the
towel after a couple of disappointing dates. It is important that you
persist . Online dating is a process. Finding the right person will
likely take time and persistence. This means you will need to have a lot
of patience to search, screen, email, chat and date before you succeed.
Therefore, it is important that you keep your expectations low.
After all, would you not rather be pleasantly surprised than deeply
disappointed?
Take Your Time to Respond
Your instincts will probably tell you to respond to emails from
prospective dates right away ... But let me tell you that you need to
slow down. You do not need to come across too eager or desperate and
taking your time to reply will also allow you to formulate a
thoughtful and appropriate response. Responding during the weekend and
on holidays is also one thing you need to avoid to maintain the
right image.
Be Yourself
When you compose your online dating profile, it isn't unthinkable that
you might be tempted to tell little white lies. Whether it concerns
your age, altitude , weight, hobbies or career - don't give in to
temptation! Trust is necessary in all relationships and you don't
need to risk sabotaging what might be a great one early on, do you?
Once you meet him or her , the truth will come out and you can say
farewell to living "happily ever after" together. Additionally, lying
requires a great memory and will add unnecessary stress to what ought
to be a fun and enjoyable online dating situation. So do not do it!
Ladies, Let Yourself be Chased
It is a cliche because it is true: men are born hunters, so let them
hunt. Yes, this is the 21st century, you have equal rights and to all
intent and purposes, we live in a civilized society. Nevertheless, don't
chase him per email. Instead, be enigmatic and sophisticated and let
him come to you. Trust me, being chased will enhance your online dating experience!
Thanks to the Internet, the world has shrunk to a single neighborhood.
The teenager or female next door that you need to date may
actually reside in another country or in a suburb close by. Online dating makes all of this possible. Keep in mind these unwritten rules as
you cast out your net and you'll certainly increase your chances of
landing that one fish that you are searching for!
Have you ever been to a function in
a room full of strangers and discovered yourself lost for words?
The art of introducing yourself to others and creating small talk may
come natural for some, but most people confess to feeling shy,
embarrassed and don't know where to start .
There are four levels of communication: Small talk , fact disclosure,
share viewpoints and opinions and share personal opinions.
1) Small Talk
- In new relationships or acquaintances the safest place to start is
to opposite about surface issues. For instance, make a comment about
the weather, current events or the surroundings you're in.
This is called 'small talk', and is used to 'size up' the other person
to determine the comfort zone in-between the two of you.
There is no
need to disclose any personal information with the other person at this
stage, as this initial interaction assists you to determine how 'safe'
they are on your first meeting.
If you are comfortable with each other at a surface level you can easily
slip into the next level of communication: fact disclosure
2) Fact Disclosure
- Fact disclosure is slightly deeper than small talk in that you
disclose facts about yourself without triggering topics of emotional
interest.
The purpose of fact disclosure is to find out if you have one thing
in common. You can use these common areas to build a friendship. You
may need to talk about your career, occupation, hobbies, or where
you live.
Avoid topics like marriage, divorce, politics, sex and religion in this
second level of communication. If you find a topic of mutual interest
you may need to progress to the next level of communication: sharing
viewpoints and opinions.
3) Share Viewpoints and Opinions
- Once you've established that the other person is 'safe' through tiny
talk , and have discovered areas of common interest, you can
construct rapport by sharing your opinions and viewpoints.
By sharing your viewpoints and opinions you permit yourself to become
susceptible to the scrutiny and objections of the other person.
Enter
this level of communication once you're comfortable that you both
share positive feelings through the first two levels.
Be prepared to hear to the opinions of your unused ally . This will
enable your friendship to survive.
Make sure you don't use your opinions as a form of 'character
assassination' of other folks . You might be thought of as a negative
person and this may cause your new friend to distance
himself/herself from you.
The fourth level of communication is sharing personal feelings. Solid
friendships over time generally enter this fourth level of
communication.
4) Share Personal Feelings
- After building upon believe , finding things in common and listening to
the viewpoints and opinions of others, you might be able to share
your personal feelings. This is when an acquaintance becomes a genuine
ally .
Things of deep value to you can be shared lacking feeling threatened.
You listen closely to each other without the need to 'solve' your
friend's problem.
You are happy to reflect their feelings back to them forming a bond of empathy and compassion between the two of you.
At this level of communication, it is necessary that you provide a
little distance between yourself and your friend . If the
distinction in-between yourself and your ally becomes
unrecognizable, it is possible for your relationship to go sour.
If you
know how to handle your own feelings, attitudes and behaviors while
maintaining your friendship at this level, you will construct a
successful friendship that can last a lifetime.
The topic of flirting has been the
subject of a numeral of scientific studies. In fact research has shown
that flirting is done in every culture around the world , regardless
of race or language. It is initial important to realize that
flirting is a basic form of behavior. By flirting, humans exhibit that
they are interested in specific partners, and if they didn't do this,
there wouldn't be a way for humans to reproduce.
Consequently, the
human species would soon cease to exist. To flirt properly, it is
first important to know the best places to flirt.
In our society of today, flirting at the wrong time or place can be
inappropriate. It is important to know when flirting is a good idea.
Perhaps one of the best places for flirting is parties. In addition to
parties, any type of social event of celebration is generally acceptable
when it comes to flirting.
More frequently than not, flirting is not
only acceptable at these events, but it will often be expected. These
events are excellent places to find potential dates. While many folks
realize this, many understand why. The reason why parties are great places to flirt is because of a process called "cultural remission."
Cultural remission can be defined as an environment where rules and
restrictions that would normally be placed on members of society are
relaxed for a certain period of time.
However, this doesn't mean there
are no rules. Unfortunately, many people discover this out the
difficult way at celebration at Mardi Gras, where getting to wild can
get you arrested and thrown in jail. However, flirting in ways that
would normally be restricted in everyday existence would be allowed at
parties or other celebrations. It should not be surprising to note
that alcohol and flirting are intimately connected.
The reason for this is because alcohol is the substance of choice at
places where flirting is commonly allowed. Some of these places are
parties, pubs, clubs, bars, and even restaurants. A numeral of studies
have shown that not only is alcohol connected to flirting, but it
actually makes you more effective at flirting when you are using it.
However, you must not go overboard when you are using alcohol, or you
could conclusion up in serious trouble.
Another great place for
flirting are colleges, universities and online flirt websites.
