Getting to that first date is
what online dating is all about. You might have no trouble at all
planning your next steps but for some it's very different. Some singles
have chosen the online dating route because the offline approach can be a
bit intimidating. But in the conclusion you've to have that offline
date, and you have to be ready at some point to bite the bullet.
This is the most exciting part of online dating. Meeting that single offline that you've been getting to know for a brief while. You would have been sending each other e-mails chatting on your instant messenger while slowly building a relationship. Once you have started some communication that's the difficult part over with. You've already broken the ice so the initial date ought to be just a formality.
You can warm yourself up to it more by having a couple of phone calls initial . Getting to the first date isn't a race, you have to pace yourself. See what the relationship is like over the phone. You will tell a lot more about someone when they're actually speaking rather than typing messages. It will confirm that you have the same connection when chatting for real as you'd online.
See if they like your humor over the phone. It's not the time to get nervous as it will be the same for both of you. You don't need to feel any love coming over the line you just need to feel your getting along well. If the initial phone call is very successful then there will be no need for a second one. Let the phone call flow into the initial offline date. When you go on the first date arrange somewhere quiet like a coffee shop.
This is just going to be a trial for your second date, when you can go to a nice restaurant. The first date you're still in the getting used to each other stage. You don't want to be doing that over a nice meal. When you're eating a meal you need to feel comfortable so the first date will get the initial bonding out of the way. Keep the date brief as well so you leave them wanting more. Have your questions in your mind before you go.
You don't want to run the date into any uncomfortable silences. Even if there's more you would love to know, abandon it for the second date. You will open up with each other easier, and your questions will be answered with a more open attitude. Don't ever get disheartened if your date offline doesn't go to plan. The initial single you date won't be the one you end up marrying. Use it a learning experience.
It will make the next one a lot easier, and then if that one doesn't work out the next one will be easier still. If they're not a success then they just wasn't meant to be. It won't be anyone's fault. You will just need to get over it, and move on to the next one, which you'll see more forward too.
This is the most exciting part of online dating. Meeting that single offline that you've been getting to know for a brief while. You would have been sending each other e-mails chatting on your instant messenger while slowly building a relationship. Once you have started some communication that's the difficult part over with. You've already broken the ice so the initial date ought to be just a formality.
You can warm yourself up to it more by having a couple of phone calls initial . Getting to the first date isn't a race, you have to pace yourself. See what the relationship is like over the phone. You will tell a lot more about someone when they're actually speaking rather than typing messages. It will confirm that you have the same connection when chatting for real as you'd online.
See if they like your humor over the phone. It's not the time to get nervous as it will be the same for both of you. You don't need to feel any love coming over the line you just need to feel your getting along well. If the initial phone call is very successful then there will be no need for a second one. Let the phone call flow into the initial offline date. When you go on the first date arrange somewhere quiet like a coffee shop.
This is just going to be a trial for your second date, when you can go to a nice restaurant. The first date you're still in the getting used to each other stage. You don't want to be doing that over a nice meal. When you're eating a meal you need to feel comfortable so the first date will get the initial bonding out of the way. Keep the date brief as well so you leave them wanting more. Have your questions in your mind before you go.
You don't want to run the date into any uncomfortable silences. Even if there's more you would love to know, abandon it for the second date. You will open up with each other easier, and your questions will be answered with a more open attitude. Don't ever get disheartened if your date offline doesn't go to plan. The initial single you date won't be the one you end up marrying. Use it a learning experience.
It will make the next one a lot easier, and then if that one doesn't work out the next one will be easier still. If they're not a success then they just wasn't meant to be. It won't be anyone's fault. You will just need to get over it, and move on to the next one, which you'll see more forward too.
